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Although the world is more connected than ever these days, it’s actually easier to feel lonely. That's where we come in. From understanding your feelings to reconnecting with loved ones, we've created a comprehensive list the best ways to stop feeling lonely, with expert input from clinical psychologists Dr. Donna Novak, Psy.D, and Dr. Chloe Carmichael, Ph.D.
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QuestionI moved somewhere new and now I'm lonely. What should I do?Make sure you're finding time to connect with people from back home. At the same time, come up with plans to meet and connect with people. That can involve looking into some groups in the area, like Meetups. I would also recommend having a really good self-care plan. It's important that you do things you enjoy every day. Keep up with any hobbies you enjoyed before you moved. Don't let those go. Things like exercise and meditation can be great. Remember that this feeling is temporary. You'll eventually meet people, connect, and move forward.
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- ↑ https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/11_things_to_do_when_you_feel_lonely
- ↑ Donna Novak, Psy.D. Licensed Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview. 8 December 2020.
- ↑ Chloe Carmichael, PhD. Licensed Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview. 19 July 2019.
- ↑ https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/11_things_to_do_when_you_feel_lonely
- ↑ Chloe Carmichael, PhD. Licensed Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview. 19 July 2019.
- ↑ https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/feelings-symptoms-behaviours/feelings-and-symptoms/feeling-lonely/
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- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/click-here-happiness/201902/feeling-lonely-discover-18-ways-overcome-loneliness
- ↑ Chloe Carmichael, PhD. Licensed Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview. 19 July 2019.
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/click-here-happiness/201902/feeling-lonely-discover-18-ways-overcome-loneliness
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- ↑ Donna Novak, Psy.D. Licensed Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview. 8 December 2020.
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- ↑ Chloe Carmichael, PhD. Licensed Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview. 19 July 2019.
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About This Article
Everyone feels lonely sometimes, but there are many things you can do to make yourself feel better, such as staying busy with hobbies. Consider reading a book or starting a DIY project, which should distract you from your negative feelings. It's natural to feel lonely when you're stuck in the same place for too long, so try taking a walk or going to a coffee shop for a change of scenery. You might also consider volunteering at a charity, since doing things for other people often makes us feel less lonely. If you want regular company around the house, look into getting a pet, like a dog or cat, which will keep you busy and give you affection. For more tips from our co-author, including how to think positively about feelings of loneliness, read on!
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